We're all guilty of at least one or two of the "blame and excuses," when it comes to what we do or say. We may not know we're doing it, but it's there nonetheless. However, there is a difference between blaming someone else and blaming yourself. You can't blame the person who hurts you with your actions or words.
Blame and excuses or personal responsibility is very similar, but when it comes right down to it, one is right and the other is wrong. In order to understand personal responsibility, you need to look at it from a different perspective than the way you are looking at things. It doesn't matter which way you look at things, you need to be able to find an acceptable reason for everything you do.
When you believe you are responsible for what you do, you have faith in someone else's judgment. This is important because faith in someone else's judgment isn't good enough. If you don't have faith, then you aren't really in control of your actions.
If you don't have faith, then you won't be able to have your own judgment about what to do. Your thoughts will lead you to wrong doings. That's why you should be looking at what you are doing and your own judgment before you ever do it.
Blame and excuses, or personal responsibility means having a firm grasp on the decision you are about to make. You should be thinking about what it is you want to accomplish, and you need to be able to clearly state your purpose and your desired outcome. You must have complete confidence that you are making the right decision.
Your decision should be based on sound reasoning and good judgment, without just saying you are doing it because you feel like you have to. The reason you are doing what you are doing is very important.
In fact, the reason you are doing what you are doing should be based on your own judgments, instead of what others are thinking about what you are doing. The only thing you can rely on is your own judgments.
You should always question yourself about every single thing you do, and you shouldn't be afraid to correct yourself about anything. If you can't do it, then seek help from someone who can.