If you knew me, and could see me in person right now you'd see that I was annoyed; Actually angry would probably sum up my mood much better than annoyed would at the moment...And to be honest it's pretty plain to see for anyone who looks at me. I know this because the girl behind the counter at the café I go to around this time of day asked if "I was ok." Not a good way to present myself is it?
Time to attitude-adjust myself and get back on track.
I'm angry because of a work-related scenario that played out today in which a work-person, another manager on my level, tried to discredit me, devalue my effectiveness and compromise my position - All in front of the Company Director I report to and loudly enough for others in the office to hear. This person's attack was unwarranted, unprofessional and ineffective as it turns out, however I'm still angry. [Becoming less angry as I type this out though...Which is why I'm blogging right now.]
It wasn't until the owner of the café mentioned it that I realised I'd allowed this scenario to impact me so much, that I was perpetuating it by carrying the anger forward. She actually said that I looked like I wanted to kill someone and she really wasn't too far from the truth.
Life doesn't always go our way does it? Things don't always flow on as per our grand design [assuming you have a grand design] and sometimes we have to address aspects in life, to amend, adapt and overcome the challenges; These challenges can also relate to our own mood, attitude and feelings. Like with me today.
Dealing with adversity can be difficult as we sometimes allow ego, pride, hubris and self-preservation emotions to cloud our judgement however dealing with adversity is an important aspect of life and one which each of us should learn. [In my humble opinion anyway.]
It's a 37°C day today, so very hot, and I have loads of appointments with my last being at 6pm. I'll get home around 8pm. It's a big day and to go into it with the wrong attitude will ruin my effectiveness - A state of play that is not acceptable to me.
I've taken a break, headed over to the café for an iced caffe-latte and a bite to eat. It's me detaching from my day, mood and attitude to ensure I don't carry it forward into the rest of my day. Writing about it helps too. Detachment is important.
Detaching from a situation provides the ability to find clarity of thought, to evaluate, consider and strategise. Leaders all over the world know that this is the best way to move forward with greater effectiveness. You'll even see it on the battlefield - A leader simply turning his or her back away from the firing line during a gun-fight will allow that degree of detachment and the clarity of thought required to make better decisions.
Have you ever been told to count to ten before you act by a parent? That's detachment. It's just a pause, a small moment to think things through, evaluate, prioritise, strategise and decide on a course of action.
I wasn't in a gun-fight today, and my parents aren't around to tell me to count to ten, but this café, the blog-writing, coffee and food, is the detachment I needed to re-evaluate winning attitude I apply to everything I do.
So...Where would I rather be this Wednesday? This week is an interesting one because my answer is right here, at work, with my winning attitude....After my detachment-coffee of course. I'm content to be right where I am today. 😏
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